wife planning long term separation

[FellOnBlackDays]

Shaves,
Don't sweat her "too little, too late" attitude. That is the first stage of a WAS. As you may have read on here before, WAS's think they have it all figured out. Whether you know it or not (much like my W), your W has been planning her escape for months. She has spent hours alone in the car and at work planning this and she has convinced herself it is the only option. Where a WAS gets into trouble is when they meet some resistance to their plan. Here is a personal example. A couple of weeks after my W moved out, she called me and asked to have access to the house to get a few things. I told her that the day requested was not a good day for me, I gave her two specific reasons why it was not a good day and politely asked her to delay her trip to the house by one day. She blew up and sent me a really nasty text. She even included the line, "if this is how you want to play it..." Now, this was completely unnecessary and frankly quite childish. At the time, I was completely confused by her explosion. I caved and let her in the house anyway. Then, after she was finished, she sent me this sweet text thanking me. Now that I have spent some time with my C and this forum, I fully understand her explosion. I was causing friction with her "master plan" and that is why she exploded. WAS's have one and only one plan. When you try to block that plan in conventional ways such as resistance, they lose it. It is really quite sad. At the time, her actions devastated me. But now, I am fully aware of her B/S and I am armed to deal with it. Two weeks ago, she tried that sh*t with me again. I used the DB'ing skills I picked up here and pulled the chair out from under her so freaking fast, she had no idea what hit her. By the end of the interaction, she was apologizing to me for her behavior. Don't worry, one of my wife's favorites was, "too little, too late." But, over time, she stopped saying that. And, I suspect your W will too. Right now, she is not saying that to you to convince you it's over. She is continually saying that out loud to convince herself...

Hang in there and keep posting. When you feel your weakest, come here and you will find the strength to keep going. Heck, I am on here tonight because tomorrow I have to face my W again for the second time in a week.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD