Lost,
Stay strong, sweetheart! You are doing very well. Yes, it is a delicate but dangerous game we are all playing now. I do wonder sometimes if my W is misinterpreting my "going dark" as not caring. But I will have to keep it up because when I was chasing, she was taking every chance she could get to destroy me.

Remember, "one size does not fit all here." We have said that a thousand times. You will have to be the one to judge when it might be time to meet him in the middle. I wish we could help more, but only you know what happens in your home. Trust your instincts for now. They have gotten you this far.

Let me leave you with this tonight. If he moves out this weekend, don't panic. Yes, it is going to be unpleasant. My wife has "moved" things on three separate occasions over the past few months. And, hey, look at the day I had today. You can get through this, OK. Right now I am sitting in a half furnished living room where most of my stuff is missing and the walls are bare because I agreed to part with the artwork. Yet, I am sitting here sending you my best. Not to mention, it has given me some time to work on myself all alone. It is not fun. But, it is not the end of the world or your relationship. I promise!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...