What to do on V-day

[Redo]

I hoping to find some answers from all of you...

My wife filed for D. She's living with her parents. We are already going through the D process.

I am wondering what to do on V-day? I still love my wife and am hoping that i can get her back someday...

Any ideas would be appreciated.

Thanks !

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M 35
W 32
DD 3
Married 11yrs
big D 01/03/11
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[dbmod]

r-

I know it will be hard but you should do nothing.

[Queen_of_Swords]

My Anniversary is on V-Day. I'm ignoring it and considering it a "Hallmark" holiday. That said, I might buy some cupcakes to share with my kids and maybe make a nice dinner, just for us.

[2stepboogie]

Do nothing! I thought about flowers or a card but at this point I really don't think it will do me any good so why bother.

[zengypsy]

I have been keeping a shoe box of cards and notes to my H since he left. He knows about it and I said that I hope I can give it to him one day. I even have kept a journal for him. I haven't been very diligent in keeping that up, but on certain occassions and/or when the mood hits, I'll buy a card or put a note in his box. It may seem pathetic or stupid, but it makes me feel better for what its worth. Perhaps a suggestion for you r29876 or anyone else having this issue.

[wanda15]

I think that is a great idea. Just put it in a box. Then do something for yourself. My anniversary is on v-day too. I think my kids are going to be more upset than I am. But I have no intentions of doing anything for my H on this dreaded day!

Good luck and big hugs!

[zengypsy]

Wanda - I think that you and your kids should go out and celebrate V-day as a family. Who said it has to be a day strictly for couples?!

[alamo76]

I will help my 2-yo son pick out a card for mommy and get her a small bouquet of flowers. I want him to learn about being appreciative of a special woman in his life, and also about v-day.

[Redo]

yesterday my wife and her sister came to pick up stuff (hers and my daughters). Since i was overseas last month, i bought her a present and left it on the table with a note saying that i wanted her to have it. She did not take it.

So that tells me that i should not do anything on V day or she might take it wrongly. She just wants to move on without me.

I feel horrible about it. She basically cleaned out everything in the house that belonged to her. It's like she did not exist. It was a real crappy day for me yesterday...