Since last night and all of today, when my wife talks to me, I leave the conversation depressed, sad and mad. And I hope one of reading might have some wisdom for this struggling soul.
It started last night with my wife bringing up the bills again. She wants me to let her know how much she needs to transfer to my account to pay for her half of the bills. The odd thing is she expects this, but doesn't bother to pay her own credit cards, etc; she still wants me to do it, just like I've always done.
Then this morning while I was out, she called me before she left for the hospital and said her car wouldn't start. I said, give me a few minutes to get home. It didn't look like an immediate fix, so I said she could use my car. During this whole time, I sensed that either she was upset at the situation and blaming me for it, or upset that she had to drive my car. I was there to help her, for crying out loud!
This evening I was having a wonderful time with my son, when she finally came home from the hospital. We chatted a bit about our son, then I asked her for my car keys, so I can back the car into the garage (that's my ritual). She snidely said that I parked it the way you've been parking it. She said she's noticed me park it front first lately. The fact is: the only times she saw me park that way was when I came home a couple times earlier in the day, and was going to leave soon afterwards; I ALWAYS back in the car at night. There's more...
So then she went up to her (our) room with my son in tow to change. As I was making my way to my room, she hollers, asking if she had gotten anything in the mail today. I said no. She thought that was odd because she was expecting something in the mail. I tried reassuring her that the only mail today was mine and some junk mail. She then remarked (in front of our son, mind you), "How do I know if you're not hiding my mail?"
I have to admit, this is where I backslid - I perpetuated the fight and said, "No I don't. If you want, I don't have to check the mail. You can." Then she said, "By the way, why are throwing empty boxes away?" Since we have a 2-yo, we have lots of boxes from diaper and wipes. Anyway, I said I only threw one. My wife said she's been noticing that I've been throwing boxes away in the trash. She couldn't have been more wrong, because I've used our recents boxes for our son's old toys, Christmas ornaments, etc. What made we sad was when she then said, "I need those boxes for moving out, you know right?" She was just so rude today, which is why I've been sad and mad at the same time.
I need some advice on the bills issue and just what my wife is thinking right now? One minute we're having a great weekend together, then all this. I have to admit that I have been particularly weak in my DR resolve this week.
She was just so rude today, which is why I've been sad and mad at the same time.
