Sa, I have been thinking about you today. As I move nearer to the end of the legal part of my marriage, I remember all too well where you are now.
You cannot believe that the man who, for so many years, was your partner, your friend and lover, is now someone who is trying to get as much as he can from you.
It is hard to imagine, hard to wrap your head around. Sad, really, that he is so far off in MLC land that he doesn't realize what he is doing.
And while it is easy for us to tell you to just concentrate on the financial part, I know how devastating this is for you. And I am so sorry.
You will be feeling a lot of things during this. Feel it. Then use those feelings to move you forward on this journey.
There is nothing that you can do or say now that will change this. So it is best to handle it as best you can remaining true to yourself and your moral compass but with your children and your own best interests in mind.
Your h will get angry. But do not let the fear of his anger stop you from doing what you need to do.
SA, you are a strong, compassionate person. While this isnt the life you imagined for yourself, no one knows what the future holds, but you hold it in your hands.
My friend Eric is right. Try to remember those 28 years will love and happy memories. Remember the man you knew who you shared a life with.
Be kind to yourself. Take some quiet moments to rest and pray.
