Gnosis, I like your posts to Punchy, they are vey direct in giving advice. I have a similar sitch, except for gender reversal. This is what is great about this boards - We read about each other sitches, take the similarities, look at all the advice and aply them!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go