Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

[tdb68]

Thanks, IMHO, I don't know where I am, that is why I titled "very lost". The A was not dealt with correctly, I feel that is very true, I tried to "put it behind me", but to this day don't feel she has ever come clean, and i have kept pushing and in turn kept pushing her away. She still hasn't filed, but keeps threatening, even though, I have "completely shut up", i don't bring it up at all.. As far as the "friend", he and I had a long talk and I don't need friends like that. I am reading Divorce Remedy now, I read through the LRT section, but it doesn't feel right, even though she is cold, we still do ALOT together, but like we are brother and sister, not husband and wife. And what a roller coaster, she is high, she is low, I am NEVER sure who or what I am walking in the door to meet. I am going to keep reading Divorce Remedy, and maybe I should take the time to speak to a DB coach? The up and downs are the hardest to handle everyday, I am trying to stay strong and steady, but don't know if I should be returning a "term of endearment", when she says goodbye Hun have a great day, or just say "you too"... Very confusing and trying situation..One thing I have learned from reading alot on this board is that I am not alone in this sitch..Seems more common than I would have ever believed before I was here myself.