Sure, I would love to see some sort of change instantly, but I know that isn't going to happen. Hopefully it is just going to take time for her to absorb what happened, if she can.
This is a marathon, not a sprint, and piecing is 100x as hard as this part. You have to maintain detachment and take responsibility for your happiness even when times are good. It's when I forget that (or H does) that we fall into trouble.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
