Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

[MrBond]

IMHO, I don't think you're in LRT.

I see alot of issues stemming from that A of hers that were just swept under the rug. One of which is the issue of your "friend". Have you talked to your W about that? Were issues of the A discussed at all in the past? Had she ever apologized sincerely and remorsefully for her A?

I have a feeling that wasn't dealt with properly so I you two did was put a bandaid over the wound without healing correctly.