Wow, this is all very good and thought provoking. I hate to say this Punchy, but I think that I agree with most of what Gnosis is saying. Not sure that I agree that you have "lost" your W, but most everything else.

I agree that on what you need to do. The idea of a tailor fit LRT is something that you should consider. What you are doing now is not working, that much we know.

I do agree with ColdWinter though that you should NOT confront your W anymore about EA. It hasn't gotten results in the past, so its unlikely that it will in the future.

What can you do to impletment LRT in your situation?

Denver_2010

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce