That's what my problem is though, you have your father-in-law and I have H's side of the family hating me and H hates being alone so I have a feeling that they are telling him if he comes back they will never bother with him again.
So I know H, if we try like we wanted to and it doesn't work he won't have me and the kids, or his extended family, so he is taking the easy way out. Since they want nothing to do with us getting back together and are totally against it because of the things he probably told them (lies), plus they blame me that he didn't talk to them for all of those years and I can honestly say, I had nothing to do with it.
I tried to get him to make amends with them but he wouldn't, even though they hurt me deeply.
So I guess even though he has said things (it's over) like this to me before and I did hear that he is mad at his sister because he feels she stabbed him in the back, this time is probably for real. Because before he didn't tell me he loved me or anything, like working on piecing our M back together, and my H is like you. He has to have feelings for someone to ML and so do I, so I know he didn't use me.
What I don't get is my extended family would be upset with me for taking him back after everything he has done to me and the kids but I would still take him back, because it is between me and H and shouldn't have anything to do with anyone else.
How do you love someone, tell them that you love them and want to work on things and then 2 to 3 days later do a total 180?
