Someone suggest H is having a MLC....I don't know?

[handlingplanb]

Your best IS all you can do. You have a lot of anger, and yes it is warranted. I understand. I understand the betrayal. I understand the pain. I understand just how UNFAIR this is. I wish I didn't, but I do.

I didn't see this as a time for me until 2 years after my H had moved out, and to this day I catch myself feeling like a victim - but only briefly. There are no guarantees in life, and as I was forced to learn, in marriage. I had many, many DB'ers tell me this was MY time. I had a few tell me how LUCKY I am to be able to learn who I am and find what makes me happy. How dare them! When I first got here I did not feel lucky, and I sure as he## was not HAPPY. It comes with time. I hope it comes to you faster than it did for me. I wouldn't wish the slow-train on my worst enemy.

I have 3 beautiful, perfect children. I have YEARS of good memories. I am gaining peace in reflecting on the GOOD that happened because of my marriage. My H can't take that away. In the beginning I let him tarnish my memories. I let him make me believe that my whole life was a lie. When I first came here (with a different screen name) I was in a very bad place emotionally. It got worse. It got better. It got BAD. It's now getting better. It's called healing. It's a process that we all must go through - because we MUST.

I will not tell you how lucky you are. I will not tell you that you should be happy now. I will suggest that you do not make ANY decisions until everything is sorted out in your head. Do not make decisions or choices that are fueled by your anger.

You are in a good place, here on these boards, and there will be many people here willing to help you through - many that have taken this journey and are farther down the road than I am. It's not a matter of time. It is what is within you. Part of the journey is learning what that is and what you will do with it.