Thanks Gnosis. This is really thought provoking. I really need to absorb and process this. You have given me some great insight into where I am. I do agree with you that I am fearful of what she may think if I stop doing these things. On the other hand they have not generated any change so why keep doing them.
This will be a big step for me and maybe that's what I need to do for me right now. I need to accept where she is at with the OM and move on. This is a more aggressive approach then just doing nothing. I liked the doing nothing approach because although this is a painful place to be, it is better than a divorce.
I am going to re-read your response and figure out where I need to go. Many thanks for this.
