Wife left me -

[lostnhurt]

Been a long time since I posted. Wife and I had been in an 'in house' separation since May of last year. It was up and down all year. I tried to detached, didn't do very well. Worked on my 180's, GAL, and setting boundaries. I had hope since she didn't leave. For a long time suspect EA with guy at school she was attending but could not find any evidence, and I looked at all, cell phone, FB, GPS and recording in our truck. She must have kept all contact to strictly at school. She was always either home, or at school.

Beginning of December school was over, the disappearing started. She started hiding the cell phone, New Years Eve she disappeared for 8 hours for what was supposed to be quick drink with friend from school. When she got home, I told her I knew who she was with, and she confessed. Still claims only friend, but she spends alot of time with this 'friend'.

I told her time to move out and get her own place. I had to travel to Vegas, while I was away, she moved into an apt. Its been two weeks now. I know for fact that she with new friend every chance she gets when she does not have our girls. Weve been sharing 50/50 time with them. They are doing ok, but asking questions. I can tell its definitely having an affect on them.

We start mediation next week. Have to say Im pretty hurt, saw a lot of signs of EA, but damn she hid it well.

Not sure if anyone around from when I used to post. I saw a lot of changes take place here a few months ago, and stopped posting, plus I really didnt have anything new to report. Nothing had changed.

I should have told her to move out the day she said she wanted to separate in May.

Right now, depressed and very hurt. I can't believe this is what it has come to. Its like she wants to be a kid again and go out every nite, she has this tiny little apt which is not very nice, AND she still has no job. She's living off her half of our savings.

Im getting ready to go pick up our girls from school, I have them for the week end. Looking forward to one on one time with them, but hard to hide how I feel inside.

Just an update if anyone interested...