As it relates to the OW and if he should introduce them….. I think the bigger question is what DO YOU THINK you can do?
Healthy relationships occur when you understand that the only person you control is YOU. You cannot make your H do anything or not do anything. What you can do is control how you deal or respond to any actions that your H takes.
Full, it seems that you have filed or are planning to file for a D. Is this correct? If so, then how does the following statement (see below) from you align with your goals? Do you want to remain married to your H? If so, then why file? You already have a separation agreement in place.
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He needs to go through this journey into neverland to find out and I need to let him so I can find out too. Then and only then can I decide if the person that emerges at the other end is someone I want to be M to.
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I just wish others would know what has really gone on.
Why? What does other knowing what is going on do? Does it change your H? Does it make you feel better? If so, why do you need the validation? Full – I have been in the same place…oh…how I wished everyone knew what was going on, I wished everyone knew that W did this or did that. Guess what? It does not matter. What matters is how you deal with your sitch going forward.
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My family is all hundreds of miles away and most of the friends I have are mutual friends with him so I don't really have a sounding board when I need it.
Sound away!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
