Punchy, I would do Nothing. Continue being the best you can be.
We both know this can't go on indefintely, but for now the ball is in their court. It is so hard for me not to confront my W about some of her actions. Sometimes I just want to be very blunt and tell her to make up her mind already. Then I read somewhere here, "If someone wanted to shoot you, you wouldn't hand them the gun!"
My W over the past couple of weeks is now coming home an hour or so later from work almost every day, even my D is asking me,"where is she and what is she doing" My response is; Don't know , Don't care. But of course I care and the uncertainty about our future kills me. Once again this is my W's mess and I'm not goin to get sucked in.(not easy)
I started taking a couple of courses at a local comm college a couple nights a week. I actually started them last year but when the bomb hit I put everything on hold. Not anymore, they are subjects I was always interested in when I was young but never had time for.(supporting a family, chasing a career etc.)
All of a sudden while at my wed night class I get a text from W,"hoping I have a good night and drive safe on the way home". Yesterday while at work she texted me again "hope your day is going well, only 2 more days till the weekend!" I'm thinking whats going on here, she never texted me before. I didn't reply, but I told her last night I rec'd them and that was nice.
I'm bringing this up because up until now there has been very little progress. Is this progress?, for me it is, but I have no expectations, she could change tomorrow.
Punchy, is it fair to be strung along like this? Absolutely not! We have to be the stronger ones now, they are still working things out on their timetable and I believe they are very confused on what to do. Lets not give the OM any ammunition.
Keep working on you and stay busy, don't let your emotions guide you, use your head.
Oh! and one more thing, my W 2 months ago told me that she knows contact must stop and would be moving her things back in our bedroom, guess what.... believe very little what they say now.
Sorry for being a little long and hope this helps.
