It is now literally four weeks away from when my wife can legally file for divorce...but she has made zero mention of it during the last 6 or 7 months. Hasn't even uttered the word in my presence.
This ^^^^ sounds like a man that is afraid of divorce. So if this is indeed the case, what are you afraid of?
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On the contrary, some of her 'actions' during the last few weeks definitely seem more positive than negative. But, positive in what way, i have no clue.
Mental….let me as you a question. What DO YOU NEED to see to know that YOUR W is having a change of heart? What does that look like to YOU?
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About a month ago she approached me about enrolling our daughter in a pre-school type of exercise class. We took her to a trial class about a week or so ago. While we were there she had me fill out the enrollment forms for the class, and sign the papers as her 'husband.' In my brain I'm thinking, "What the hell just happened here?!?!?!" Then, as we were leaving the place, we walk right by a State Farm insurance office, which happens to be the office of the guy who sold us our homeowners insurance policy. As we're passing the office she points and says, "Oh look. That's the office of the guy who sold us our insurance policy for our house.
1) You are married so filling out forms you should have put yourself down as her husband. 2) MLC = confusion 3) FTR, my wife had a discussion with me about…. a. Adding me to her life insurance policy b. Remodeling the bathroom c. A plan to pay down debt Then about a month later she filed!
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Is it typical for the MLC spouse to become a messy person during/throughout their crisis?
That was my experience. My W stop cleaning or doing much of anything. Hey Mental do you agree that your W is in a crisis and that in some cases they revert back to “teenage” type behaviors? If so, then ask yourself…as a teenager did you clean your room?
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During the crisis as in 'temporary' Or, more like they become this way...during the crisis...and end up permanently this way? I'd hate to think she is going to be this messy person forever...
Can you or I control what type of person she ends up becoming? Hmmm…if she is going to be messy does that mean that you are no longer going to stand? Mental – I have to say that everytime you post it is about HER. It is about what she is doing? It is about what she may be doing, thinking, feeling. It is about if she uses charmin what can that mean. IMO, you are still so focused on HER. Now I may be wrong and maybe it is just that you do not post about things going on in YOUR life – only you know the answer to this. I guess my only point is that the more you continue to look at her every action, every word the more you take away energy from living your life. So Mental, what are your dreams – what things to you want in YOUR life – regardless of if she comes back?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
