Have a read of the different situations of men here with WAW. you will see some similarities.
About the 'controlling' thing. I think its a common perception or excuse from WAW about the LBH. They feel they have no control (or it was taken) so they leave the R. If they feel trapped of course they dont feel like they have choice or control. My W has told me similar things with no basis. How can a husband be controlling when they basically leave W do whatever they want with no question or affirmation? Ya, it doesnt make sense but the whole things doesnt make sense. If a WAW feels trapped its easy to point a finger at the husband, and they do.
Thats not to say that perhaps your behavior is subtly controlling. Hard to say really without knowing you (are you honest with yourself?) but i will take your post at face value.
Do you want to save your M? At this point its about employing DB techniques, GAL, 180's but look at yourself critically and see where you've been and where you would like to be as an individual. It sounds like your W has some serious issues to work out though, perhaps time is whats needed. Patience by you is key.
