Originally Posted By: Scylla
Should I just give up trying to save my marriage? Friend of mine said it was over, perhaps she was right, and I'm just spinning my wheels.


That is up to you.

I asked the same question when I first got here.

Are you here for quid pro quo?

You'll give as long as you a guranteed to get what you want back?

Is that what your vows meant to you when you said:

I will love and honor you all the days of my life

BUT

If you don't give me what I want.

What I feel entitled to receive for this commitment I say to you today.

If you get scared and confused.

If you get so scared you run away.

THEN

I won't.

One thing I can tell you Scylla is we want a lot of things when we get here and most of them have to do with our own fears.

When you make a decision.

One that most people don't make.

Choose the path less traveled.

You find answers that most people don't get.

Most people don't even know what questions to ask.

You want a guarantee?

Originally Posted By: Scylla
Great. I cannot tell you how discouraged and defeated this makes me feel.


I guarantee you will continue to feel this way unless you decide to define success on your own terms and based on what you control...

whether it is with your H or someone new.

Your success lies within you not in the actions or inaction of another.

So what are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am