Living Like Roomates 2

[Gnosis]

Hi Punchy, I'm an old-timer who managed to save his marriage. I drifted away from the forum a while ago. I'd like you to think about the following:

1) The fact that she continues to see the OM

Q1: Why should she stop seeing him if he meets her needs?

2) No update from her as to the status of our relationship

Q2: What makes you think you're entitled to one?

I would like to confront her on this, but am not sure what the impact would be.

Q3: You've confronted twice before, what would make a 3rd, 4th or 100th time any different?

Is this the quick path to divorce?

No. Divorce is always a LONG painful process. Will this lead to divorce? There are no guarantees to anything in life. What works in one situation does not necessarily work in another.

Should I just hang back and hope that their flame dies out?

I don't think you understand the power and influence of the mind. This (according to you) has been going strong for 18 months.
Q4: Why should this change?

Any advice on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated.

The best advice I can give you is this:

STOP LIVING IN FEAR.

Fear cripples your ability to make decisions.
Fear forces you to swallow bitter pills.
Fear prevents you from living your life.
Your spouse can sense your fear.

Perhaps I missed this in one of your threads (and yes I read all of them)...
Q5: Has your W ever backtracked from her statement of living together for the sake of the kids?

I hear this forum is heavily moderated and I hope this message gets through to you.

IMHO I think it's time you went into a modified form of the LRT.