WAS/MLC'r are in a fog. They think if they leave their current situation that the grass is so much greener. The stage of limerance with a new relationship doesn't last. It settles into a relationship with all it's bumps and curves just like the one they left. Sometimes those tranisent relationships end worse then the ones they left. Doesn't everyone put their best foot forward when in a new relationship? Inner problems are portable. Getting into a new relationship, moving, getting new friends will NOT work unless they deal with their own inner demons first. It's like tires spinning in the mud. The WAS has to get their in their own way and in their own time and they think that running and hiding will solve everything.
I am fairly new to the boards as well, but I have read DR over a dozen times. It helps me stay the course. Even though I have made changes, I do backslide from time to time. We are always works in progress. I would suggest you start there if you haven't already. You certainly came to the right place. These boards have been a HUGE avenue of support.
Keep posting; I will certainly follow your story and help in any way possible.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
