SDfoundgirl, thank you so much for your story and thoughts.

About your first post, you are right, I did miss that opportunity didn't I?

At the time I wasn't looking to validate her feelings, I didn't know at the time.

Back then: I started that R talk. Tried to get her to work on marriage. Turned into her telling me she wants a D.

Now: I again had to go to her for conversation, going in it to validate her feelings this time. She said it was a nice talk.

I like the results of the 2nd conversation better.


H-40 W-38
Together-20
Married-12
boy-7 girl-3
bomb-9/17/10
No papers
live together
No affair