Mila, I know others have recommended 'From Abandonment to Healing' but I would urge you to read this if you have't already. I wish I had read it sooner. I have written more about it on SA's thread.
You are 16 months or so post bomb, I think. Things will change a lot over the next couple of years with OW, even if they stay together. If your h is so unwise as to buy a house with OW he will likely live to regret it. My h has, as when he wanted to sell she was nothing like as reasonable as me, and is still withholding her consent.
As you know, if you criticise OW to your daughter she may defend her. Just smile and say nothing. These OW are gold diggers and show themselves in their true colours. What kind of man or woman sleeps with a married man, and breaks up a long relationship? This isn't being angry about it, just factual.
