I have read that during the crisis they become the opposite of what they were.
During the crisis as in 'temporary' Or, more like they become this way...during the crisis...and end up permanently this way? I'd hate to think she is going to be this messy person forever...
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At the same time, as an LBS, I have read that the you will become the opposite of what you were through your journey as well.
Same question as above. In my mind, if the MLC spouses' 'changes' [for the worse] are temporary, and the LBS spouses' changes [for the better] are permanent, that's definitely a good thing. However, I'm scratching my here wondering, what's the guarantee that the good changes are permanent, but the bad changes are not? I guess there is none. I guess it's all a crap shoot in some ways. All I know for sure (at least at this moment in time) is that I really like the person I am becoming and hope I stay that way. My dear wife has never really the ability nor desire to engage in self-reflection. She's a conflict avoider. I hope that someday soon she finds the strength to overcome...well, to overcome her own ego I suppose. She's not just fighting to conquer demons. She's fighting to conquer herself, or at least the person she thought she was. Can't be easy...
