I got in from work and was taking my coat off, big belly sticking out and H was looking at me... and he came around the table and just put his arms around me and said, very sincerely and sadly "I'm so sorry I left you Al". I was pretty stunned. I thanked him for saying it and said, I was so worried about you that summer, I was desperately trying to get you to get some help or counselling and he said "I know you did. I really wasnt well back then, I'm so sorry".
I think its the first time he's ever said that, or in that way ..but its certainly the first time he has said something unprompted, without me starting the convo. Amazing. He first left in Sept 2007 and its taken until January 2011 for a proper, heartfelt, unprompted apology.
I always felt that many of us would get that eventually, whether we reconciled or not and AS LONG AS we stayed in somewhat amicable contact with our ex's. The Piscean did the same in 2009, a heartfelt volunteered apology and explanation.. and that took 15 years! It still meant a lot to me to get one though.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
