You guys are right. At times I get so comfortable in the conversation I lose my focus. I must maintain!
Update>>>>>>
Took some meds yesterday and it knocked me out cold! This morning W called
W "hey what are you doing? Are you sleeping??"
M "nah. I have a cold I sound like a frog. Good morning"
W "I am running late for work. I hope they fire me! I hate this job. I don't care"
M "I am sorry. You just didn't hear the alarm?"
W "I did. I just laid there. It's just been a bad week"
M "Would you like for me to call you in the morning when I get up. Just to say Hi and then I'll go"
W "NO. I don't want anything from you. I don't want to depend on you. I can do this on my own"
M "you've done so much already. ok. It would be no problem"
W "I gotta go"
M "Ok but if you need someone to talk to let me know. I feel it to"
W "Ok thank you"
I think some mistakes where made by me in this convo. Not enough validating and too quick to help. I need to work on that but it has always been my nature to run to her aid when she is hurting. I always want to take the pain away.
