She doesn't talk about R. We never have, other than D-day. I have been waiting to validate her feelings, but she never shows any. Hiding like she has done for years.
Back when she told you about her C appointment, you missed an opportunity to do this. I can't remember everything you said, but it sounded like pursuit instead of just listening. When she said, "I've made up my mind," you replied something like, "You want to work on our M?" Instead, something like, "It's good to have clarity," or something neutral would be better.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
