That is why this time it is so different. Last time he couldn't wait to get out of the house. He still sleeps in our bed. Wakes me up in the morning before he leaves. He is distant but I am giving him space. He isn't being mean, and is acting like nothing is wrong for the most part.
You will see MANY differences; and that has all to do with the issue or issues that were faced and settled while within the initial tunnel; most of all of these will already be settled, and put behind.
It IS ALWAYS possible to come out, emotionally "blocked" without facing every issue; attempting to "set aside" what is too painful to face; exiting TOO quickly...yet, it comes back later on to be faced in this settling down process...I KNOW, I have lived through this; and closely paid attention to what I learned from this experience.
. I will research and find your threads; and read them, especially the ending you experienced; IF I can find it.
I know this much; and it comes from experience:
Your husband will NOT start healing completely, until everything, that has NOT been settled has been looked at AND settled; and it's hard.
That is WHY I warned you about possible hard rebellion..there should be a child or children you didn't see before; and he still has a desire to run hence the divorce talk...I didn't get that from my husband; I never was threatened with a divorce at any time.
But understand God never puts on us any more than we can bear; and it is important that you continue to use your intuition; just as you did before....you will see more clearly in time, just as I did.
Each person is different, therefore what can be experienced is different..there are NO 'pat' answers to what can happen afterward.
I know I was illustrating a bad time in my situation; but it is better to know the worst that can happen; so the best can be hoped for.
I was actually very glad to have this opportunity; after I realized it was an additional learning process for me....like before, I learned many things in hindsight.
I came to understand more fully WHY this happened to my husband; it's given me a new insight on yet, another possibility.
I could have done without what happened..but, since it did; I know that I can help; because I've walked in those shoes before, myself.
Back later.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
