Picked up the W at the airport and it couldn't have gone better. Let the kids get their hugs in while I put the bags in the car. She came over to me and gave a giant hug. She didn't let go.
The ride home - about 45 mins in rush hour - was bliss. Even though she was totally exhausted, she was attentive to me and kept the conversation going. The kids were in the back, minding their biz as we talked about tons of things. She even mentioned where she wanted us to go for Valentine's Day.
The flowers worked wonders and then when we got home, the movie did the trick too. She looked at me like, "you actually listened to me."
We all ate dinner as a wacky family - we all have very strong senses of humor and it gets crazy. Life has been restored again.
She came up to me later and gave me another hug AND a kiss. Totally unexpected.
But I wasn't done I drew a bath for her and shut the door and let her be alone. I went to the movies so she could have her and kids time. Worked nicely!
AND I enjoyed being by myself too...
Guys and Gals, I seriously think that there is something to be said for understanding what your partner needs. I read the 5 Languages of Love the other night - I use a highlighter - and found her language. I think if we all learn to speak our mate's language, we will all be in a better place.
By the way, I look at this as a start not a finish. I know we'll have hard times - heck it could be tomorrow. I'm just starting. This is a new life and it will be fun.
I'm not going anywhere either. I need to spread the good feelings for those of us who haven't risen to this point yet. I just hope I can spread some good ju-ju for those of us.
Like I always say, Stay Strong!!!
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
I drew a bath for her and shut the door and let her be alone. I went to the movies so she could have her and kids time. Worked nicely!