You need to try and stop backsliding in this way. You are putting pressure on him. there is only one response that you should expect when you do this right now... him being pushed farther away. YOU ARE NOT going to be able to change his mind. Only he can do that. You have to give him the space and the time to do it.

Go dark and resort to LRT as soon as you can.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce