I WILL Attain my Goals - Personal and M

[FellOnBlackDays]

Denver,
Sorry, I hit the send button too soon. I had quite a bit more to say. First, I think this is a great sign. But I still think you need to be careful of what you here from your FIL. Your FIL and MIL may want to see you two back together and could warp the truth to push you to pursue. Once a week, my maternal grandmother calls my mother to ask her if I have gone back to my wife. She doesn't understand that my W did the walking. All she knows is that she wants us back together. So, be careful. You have come so far at this point, don't spoil it. Take your time.

Just tell your FIL that you still love her and you are going to do everything in your power to get her back and leave it at that. Don't mention the "experts" you are talking to. He might mention it to your W and your cover will be blown. She will then know that you are being coached and are not being genuine.

Our BITS brothers are right though. This plan is not "one size fits all," so you will have to judge how to start working your way back into her life. But, also, don't forget to keep an even keel with this. Don't set yourself up for an emotional fall should she pull back again. Remember, you are dealing with a WAS. According to my C, a WAS is one of the most emotionally unstable individuals around.

None the less, I am so happy for you, man. Your work is starting to pay off. I can't wait to put another point on the board for the BITS!! Just promise me you won't abandon us once you get your world in order. BITS never walk alone!

FOBD