Same here, H's OW was my good friend, sometime best friend, of the last ten years... She had the gall to invite me over to her place when H was away on a trip, just before bombshell, when later I found flirting emails between them on his computer. SHE made the overture!
She lives in our town, has just left her husband etc. Even though she was the one to terminate the A, I feel H probably pines after her...
Read some good stuff on another site about how even intense emotional relationships are still ultimately affairs, as they take the emotional intimicay away from the marriage into another relationship. The woman advised us to ask ourselves, "Is this person a friend to my/our marriage?" But I guess in this age of "me first" most people ask if the person is their personal friend!
Do spouses who have affairs ever feel a pang of conscience? My H alledged he felt NO guilt towards me, when I told him to stop dumping on me and making projections for me and assumptions about me (some months ago) and I told him it was his guilt speaking.
Livnlearn (Newbie piecer, I think!)
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
She had the gall to invite me over to her place when H was away on a trip, just before bombshell, when later I found flirting emails between them on his computer. SHE made the overture!
