Navy,
I wouldn't involve your friends. Just my two cents. I tried that and it did not work. Actually, it backfired horribly. A WAS doesn't want to be confronted by anyone about what they are doing. In their f'ed up mind, they have things all figured out and they don't want anyone trying to mess up their plans. Your friend will probably not be able to help you. But, you are a grown man and know the sitch and your wife better than we do. You will have to make that call. I wish you the best of luck, my friend.

Yes, prepare yourself. You are going to spend the next couple of months on the worst emotional roller-coaster ride you have ever endured. I have days where I can't seem to cry enough and I have other days were I don't really give a damn if she comes back at all. Today happens to be one of those days where I am not sure I care what happens to us right now. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I hope you can find some peace and some rest. Just keep thinking about your wonderful children and how much they are going to love getting to see you.

BITS never walk alone.

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...