Thank you for visiting my thread and for your input. I wish I had the magic solution for everybody, myself included, but you know well I do not.
About your H's 'nothing' I can share what works with my H: I ask, he says 'nothing' then I say 'OK, sit down with me for a while.' He relaxes, we have something to eat or drink or watch TV... then I kinda ask "you had a bad day, want to talk about it?' Open questions tend to work better than narrow ones. But I think what really does it is the relaxation time
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
