Hi...Well I don't think focusing on the OW will do you any good. True the W who has an affair is in my book the lowest form of life. They are selfish and do not care who they hurt. Bi.ch is only one of the names I have for my Hs OW. Focus on yourself, take care of yourself. The OW is not worth driving yourself crazy over. I am pretty new to this also, my H is living with the Bi..ch, He has been stopping over or calling quit frequently. I'm thinking my DB is starting to work. I have found that reading as many books on this subject as possible has helped me. You can buy used books on Amazon.com, but watch the prices because shipping is 3.95 per used book. I have found a lot of used books in very good condition, very cheap..Hold your head up high and hang on tight the ride has just begun. This is not easy and it is the most painful thing you will probably do in your life, it has been for me.
