hi zen...i am so sorry for your heartbreak. i agree with denver...you need to find the girl he fell in love with and as hard as it is to be friends....it will be helpful to you in the long run when i was here last year, i realized that going dark would be bad for me, as my husband has abandonment issues (mom left when he was 3 and his dad proceeded to marry 4 more times, none worked out) so i needed to modify the lessons i was learning here i got my own life and didn't pursue, but i also, every so often, let him know he was special to me i think you have to work with the method, but use what you know about your spouse i hope this helps some i am there with you i had another chance, but we didn't change anything, so here i am again lots of love tonight
