I agree with Bond... never too early for a glass of wine... or a tequila shot!

To answer your question, I think that you ought to tell H what you think and then leave it up to him. They are his sons, even if you do love them as your own.

Remember, I have a SS myself and have learned some of this hard way.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce