Maybe just show him your concern and that you are asking because you're his wife and love him very much. And that you are there when he is ready to talk. Keep it short and simple. Just show that you understand he may be going through something, but that you are there for support.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Maybe just show him your concern and that you are asking because you're his wife and love him very much. And that you are there when he is ready to talk. Keep it short and simple. Just show that you understand he may be going through something, but that you are there for support.
thank you very much. that is the jist of the note i sent h yesterday. it was handwritten on a nice plain cream colored note card, not anything flowry. i mailed it and he should get it today. i told him that i miss talking to him and the close friendship that we enjoyed as part of our extrordinary marriage. and that i am here when he is ready to share anything about what has been troubling him. that my feelings for him are strong and i am still his soft place to fall if he so chooses.
Shine a light on it and tell him that you are his PARTNER, and as his PARTNER, you are there for him thru thick and thin, and you will HELP him break this addiction. Addiction is shame based and it is like a drug, there is no such thing as "self-help" if one could help one's self, everyone would do it. I remember reading a quote one time that I liked.
"There is no such thing as a self made man, I distinctly remember making him myself" - God
I have been married for 33 years so I have a little bit of license here to speak about marriage voids and problems. I am here seeking one thing in my future marriage with my wife, who remains today as the love of my life. Know what I am excited about when I look to our future together, and IF we can achieve this together, it will be more intoxicating than ANY kind of porn out there, IF we can achieve this in our relationship, it will be like sexual NAPLAM, so intoxicating we will BOTH become ADDICTED to this "drug". Know what that "drug" I want to bring to our marriage is, and get us both addicted to it? Here is its, this very addicting exciting intoxicating drug is called...........
Honesty
And I want the Honesty drug in our marriage 100% pure - not diluted with any secrecy, hiding things or whatever one lurks around in the dark alone - wanting - needing- aching for, etc. etc. I want my drug in its purest form and I want it injected into my heart and soul and have that fuel me each and every hour.
IF we can accomplish THAT in our marriage, we surely will have this, which is what I ache for in my life
"Love - a friendship on fire with your best friend"
And you cannot have that - if you don't have 100% honesty.
Just my two cents worth here
Mr. Firstlove
M-58 W-56 Married 33 years BOMB -Sept/10 Separated 8 months
BITS (of Fruit) Firstlove
"Go Confidently in the direction of YOUR dreams - Live the life you've imagined" - Thoreau
