H's MLC - finding compassion and forgiveness

[AntoniaB]

Hmm. How odd! (the food changes and the loss of the second language). I wonder if the whole "where is something" memory loss is anything like the whole "I don't remember saying that." My H came up with all sorts of things that I remember SO clearly--here's one: "The OW left her BF of 6 years for me because she thought he was way too smothering of her behavior." 7 months later it became" "I never said that. She left him because she never really loved him." I said "so if she lived with him 6 years and let him think that she did so he paid her mortgage, doesn't that make her a user?" And he said, "I'm not denying that she used him. But you know, lots of people do that sort of thing. It doesn't make them a bad person."

Crazy talk, isn't it?

And Mila, if you are having any trouble being objective when it comes to financial/legal stuff, it can be helpful sometimes to talk to a friend who is very objective about that sort of thing. For me, I confided in a male friend. I knew if I talked to his wife she'd be saying things like "bleed him dry" or "he's a douche" or whatever. My male friend was more detached from the situation and he even went to a lawyer meeting with me and then helped later. He was just able to keep level headed and not personalize anything. You probably have a friend who can do the same for you if necessary.