Till death do us part... or she leaves...

[Coach]

This is from a poster called Futureunknown. Does this seem a little counter-intuitive to you guys? Do you see the results of his actions and behavior? Do what works.

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Perhaps because attraction is primal and subconscious, she realised something was wrong but couldn't quite work out what it was.


My W is a marriage and family therapist, and she is clueless as to where her feelings of attraction comes from, at least consciously. I think most marriage counselors are, which is why marriage counseling has such a dismal track record. They only work on those secondary things that require the base attraction to be there. Would be pretty hard for a marriage counselor to advise a husband whose wife is demonstrating walk away tendencies to flip the tables and tell the wife that the marriage isn't working for him, that he deserves a loving partner, and that HE'S starting to doubt the future of the marriage! No, the marriage counselor wants everyone to talk about feelings, R talk, R talk, and more R talk. The whole while the LBH is breaking down his emotional walls to express himself more and more, while WAW is feeling more and more like "Yuck! Get me outta here!"

So funny the things my W has said to me during this whole ordeal. After I had completely cut off from her for a few months, after I made her feel the pain of losing me, she asked me to meet her to talk. Her attraction to me was oozing out of her. She said "You are so nice now. The way you hold yourself is so much more confident and attractive." This is after I had been completely snubbing and ignoring her for months. Then in the middle of our talk she came over to me and started kissing me passionately, right in the restaurant. Extremely out of character for her. When I later asked her about that she said "I couldn't believe how much I wanted to kiss you. I just couldn't stop myself!"

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I read somewhere recently not sure if it was a thread here may even have been RobX.....'if you're stacking the dishwasher and your wife thinks you're doing it wrong, how would she act if she was attracted to you, and how would she act if she wasn't?' I believe the reaction would be different in both cases....If there is attraction, it would mean very little....if not, it could be used to batter you.


Exactly! If a woman is feeling that attraction, her man can do no wrong. If she's not feeling the attraction, and especially if she also feels trapped with him, he can do no right.