We have been married for 24 years and I thought that we had a pretty good marriage. In my mind there was nothing major going on that couldn't be dealt with and I thought he was happy. Seven months ago, my son and I came home from a weekend away to find out that my husband had vanished. He left behind his credit card, check book, cell phone and all his belongings. He had been extremely irritable lately and his estranged mother had passed away two months earlier so we thought that he had possibly commited suicide.
We waited for days wondering where he was. Phone calls to family and friends brought nothing. Finally he decided to text my son(got a different phone) and told him that he left and that it was not my son's fault but between us. I never got anything. After 24 years of marriage he simply walked out of my life.
So I started to investigate his computer and cell phone usage and of course he was communicating with another woman...who I'm sure he ran away to be with. It doesn't appear that he was in communication with her for any more than a month and seeing that we did basically everything together I don't foresee him having had much contact with her. She lives 80 miles from where he works so he has quite a commute every day.
Now, seven months later, he still has not had the guts to say anything to me. I have emailed him and told him that I know about the other woman. He still only texts S(16) and has not had any physical or voice contact with him. He does come to S sporting activities but "hides" on the visitors side. Occasionally will leave me cash in the mailbox for expenses.
Anybody have any insights to what I think is pretty bizarre behavior. Why the running and hiding? Why can't he man up? Any advice on what to do.
