FMV,A few things. I'm sure your IC might have suggested this. Is there any way to practice this with someone who you trust?
Really? IDK I'd feel so silly!! But I like your idea about practicing while driving. I do a lot of thinking while I drive, so might as well do it out loud.
Originally Posted By: Harrier
I hesitated bringing up the family thing because life is different. Of course, I get burned by it.
Oh no worries, and I didn't mean to 'burn' you!! It's actually good for me to talk about it; get used to hearing myself acknowledge that I was treated badly and that the mistreatment wasn't my fault. So any kind of talk about it is good practice. Thanks for bringing it up. Wow. Your dad didn't come to your wedding. Ouch. I'm sorry to hear that. Do you talk now? If so it must have been a doosie of a first conv.
Originally Posted By: Harrier
And for the vast majority of my marriage I had NO problems about expressing my needs (I think my biggest problem was HOW I did it) However, in light of recent events I've kinda treaded more lightly for some reason. I think fear is really taking control.
Well I'm certainly glad to hear you don't stew like me! But isn't that something. How so many issues come down to how and/or if we express our needs.
Your examples are fascinating - how you asked for what you wanted, then just weathered and waited out for the response instead of letting the fear of what it 'might be' stop you from even making the request gives me a lot of inspiration. Wow - like, how do you do it? What do you tell yourself right before to get yourself in there? Doesn't your heart race? My knees and hands even shake!!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
