YR, Some of them will do yard work, others will do the upkeep on the cars. It's something to that they have control over and it will helps them to find a bit of balance. I know it sounds crazy, but things such as this help them heal in their own way. If he's able to do the things that you have described, he may be of the few that doesn't require a "man cave".
You are doing well and you know and realize what you need to do. That is what is important here...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
