One of the biggest things I have learned is the take care of self motto. We are all here because we want to save our M but I don't believe in the process of saving our marriage we should have to lose who we are. What I mean, is the boundaries that are discussed make more and more sense. I think sometimes we hesitate to set boundaries so that we don't damage an already fragile situation, but at what cost?
I love my W as all of you know and would love to save my M but there are certain lines I would not cross because by doing so I will jeopardize my own integrity. Then I will end up resenting her, why I lost myself in the healing process in order to be with her.
I will accomplish my goal but I will remain true to my principles and morals and if I fail I can hold myself up with pride.
Some people think it's holding on that makes one strong- sometimes it's letting go.
