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Ditto from me as well!

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Thank you Mila and everyone else!! I am very blessed to have such great friends and family.

The weekend was good, even though I was pretty much snowed in for the day on Saturday, and was very BORED! lol

H had the kids for the weekend. Didnt hear much from him. He still hasnt taken kids around the OW except for that one time before christmas. I would like to think its because I asked him not to until he had been dating her for a while....2 months so far...I have been prepared for them to go see her for the last 2 weekends...but so far not yet. Anyway, Im prepared for it.

I have also been kinda quiet myself with my H. Dont talk much to him anymore....if he texts I will answer, but thats about it. This morning I texted him to let him know the kids wouldnt be up till later because of no school today, so he could call later because they were sleeping...he said ok and thank you...then later asked if there was something wrong....I guess because Im kinda quiet he think somthing must be wrong...and also when he brought the kids home yesterday he kept thinking I was looking outside like I was afraid someone would see him there??? Paranoid I think he was...but yet, dont know why.

Anyway....back at work today....trying to file papers...yuck! Supposed to go and sign a simple contract with my silent partner...nothing major, just basically about how I will be paid until we decide if this lady will become a legal partner with me. Still havent told my H about this...Im thinking I may need to just incase he gets wind of it some other way....not that he could do or have much say in it....I have to do this or close up my business for good...then I have no idea how I will survive at all...


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Well, I got a good laugh last night. My walking partners twin brother is married to my H's sister....she has told this guy that I have begged my H to come back home. I cant figure out if she has said this to him to get some info or if my H has told his sister this....I can only think he may have said this because he knows this guy is interested in dating me....ok, he has a girlfriend who he is seriously involved with...why start a rumor like this? I have NOT begged him back...trust me, when the thought crosses my mind I have flash backs of him cheating and there is NO WAY I would EVER beg him to come back home! UGH! Its kinda made me mad. I dont want anyone to think Im that desperate anymore!! BUT trying to let it go....last night I could do nothing but laugh about it, but today its really ticked me off.


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OK...tell me why my H decided to tell me this morning that he is going out of town for the weekend...and if I would like for him to bring me anything back??????? REALLY????? ok seriously, didnt need to really know that he was going somewhere (with ow Im assuming) and I DO NOT want him to bring me back anything!!!!!

UGH!!

wow...I just replyed, no thank you, I dont want you to bring me back anything, have fun.

His reply : ARE YOU OK, I sense something. I feel bad because I though you would want something.

CAN I SCREAM LOUD ENOUGH FOR IT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE??

Sure, honey please bring me something back from your weekend with your girlfriend.

sorry, a bit of sarcasm there...trying not to reply to H that way.


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I told H he could just bring the kids something. He replyed he would...then said he would probably get me something too.

Ugh~ Told him thank you for being nice, but I really didnt want a souvenier of his weekend getaway with OW.

He replyed OK

Think he got the point?

Great...now I will have thoughts of him with her all weekend having a little vacation.

He has NO idea how much he has hurt me over the last 4 years! Im so tired of going through these emotions. SO VERY TIRED> I deserve some peace of not having to think about any of this anymore....I just want it to be over.


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OK...tell me why my H decided to tell me this morning that he is going out of town for the weekend

Question: Why do bears chit in the woods?

Answer: Does it matter?

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with ow Im assuming

What does assuming get you?

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wow...I just replyed, no thank you, I dont want you to bring me back anything, have fun.

1) why even reply
2) What other buttons do you think you have?

Kissak,
Who's actions and behaviors can you control?

God Bless,
Eric


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Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
Who's actions and behaviors can you control?



MINE MINE MINE MINE MINE smile


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Kissak,

I am sorry you had to hear that. My H is with OW for a four days this weekend. It keeps going through my mind!! I am praying for you and I both!!

(((HUG)))


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Ouch Kissak, very sorry that they can be such tactless A$$es! Kharma works in mysterious ways though. You could'a told him you wanted something sexy from Victoria's Secret ... wonder how the OW would feel about that shopping trip LOL.

Try to get out and have some fun this weekend to take your mind off it.


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Kissak ... flip it around ... way I see it, OW has to tolerate your H's bullchit for the weekend and you're free as a bird wink

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