Hey Sa, as usual, I agree with Snodderly.

I did just what you wanted to do early on and it was like talking to cardboard. Actually got him pissed.

I have recently sent him an email. Just to tie things up and say some things that I have been wanting to say, For me, not for him.

I told him I didnt expect nor want a response, that it was for closure.

He responded kindly. I posted some of it on my thread.

I felt better having done it. But you are not far enough away from it to do it, in my opinion.

You will know when the right time is. Til then, concentrate on you and your kids.

One day at a time, my friend.