My Story - He Cheated while I was Pregnant

[AJM80]

Thanks! I felt so devastated in the beginning, but quickly realized I need to let go of my anger, no matter how this turns out. When the OW pops into my head, I still get mad. When I think of the damage to my kids, I feel sad and angry. Mostly, I feel sorry for my husband. We weren't perfect, but we were pretty good together and life had blessed us. He's started to miss us and appreciate us a little more, so I am trying to stay strong and not start a fight, dramatic convo, or try tell him what to do. Last night he cam over early and we didn't talk much about anything. He fed the baby, did a load of his laundry, carried some stuff up to the attic for me, and offered to pack the car for my trip (delayed due to the blizzard). He commented on how quickly it was time for him to go, but that he couldn't delay since the weather was getting worse. He asked me to delay the trip at least a few hours for safety, but was very sure to say he wasn't trying to tell me what to do.

I do need stronger boundaries. He wanted me to not put my/kids laundry in, so that he could do his? And he kept walking away from the baby to see to his laundry, get food/drink/bathroom. The baby can crawl, so this was not cool to do without telling me or putting him in his bouncy seat.

1 step - I got the ILYNILWY around the same time you did, be strong. The thing is, he does love you. Guys like to think they can turn it on or off with a switch sometimes, but that's what they tell you and themselves to stop the hurting and justify what they do.

I think I am going to wash the kids up and get on the road today - otherwise I am going to spin a silly story in my head of us getting snowed in and rescued by husband, leading to a long talk and magical reconciliation overnight.