But that is a standard response from most C's who do the standard thing. It should be no surprise to anyone here. They are just looking after their clients interest and wouldn't be aware of DB techniques or goals. If the C is good on a personal level i would keep him/her.
About the grandma and family. Be upfront. Tell them your side of the story, its your family. Its better to get this things in the open, less stressful.
You're right FOBD, that list is reversible. Heck, a WAW, D and living 10 years apart is reversible. But you thinking that way shows you are not detached. I know its still early for you and speaking for me (10 years ago) detaching was extremely difficult. You must detach and GAL. When W finds that the grass isnt so green over there she will be curious and want to see what you are up to. Make sure when she calls or stops in she sees this happy, vibrant, attractive guy having a blast at life. It can be done, and should be done for your sanity imho. Detach man, learn to detach.
As far as dating other women. Go for it when you are ready. Only you will know when you are comfortable with it.
