W is successfully attempting to detach but is not there yet i.e. phone interactions and pleasantries. You are now where I was 3 months ago because now she is out of the house. Look at it from a more positive and realistic perspective...
1. Conducted an EA. So what! Really think about it. She is talking to someone and this can go 50/50 either way. As you know my wife is talking to OM also. Ok. Let it go. You know she will meet new people and talk and make friends. Not everyone she talks to is going to be the one she sleeps with, if anybody.
2. Moved out and took all possessions Ok..She is attempting to move on and she can't do that with half her stuff in your place. It [censored] to see and it hurts to see but did you expect her to move out and not get her stuff. Want to hear something funny. When I was in OK I actually helped my W move in. Even went to Lowes and helped her pick out a lamp. When she told me you should have rented a truck to help with the big stuff I said “my compassion has limits” with a big smile. Then I told her I could spend the night at her place because it was closer to the airport she responded by saying “my compassion has limits” we both got a kick out of that. When I first showed up at her house and saw that the car had OK plates I was hurt. Something so small but it showed she was moving forward. She saw my face and said “I know what you are thinking but I needed OK plates to get a job”
3. Submitted Change of Address form to USPS. OK. She kind of has to don’t you think.
4. Changed billing address on all statements (all she gets here now is junk mail). See point 2.
5. Walked away with check from me for household goods. A deal you agreed to.
6-8 All things she needs to do in order to be a responsible person.
9. Told me repeatedly "it is over, I am not coming back." How she is feeling right now is exactly how you already know she feels. This should not surprise you. Stay focused on the goal and be discipline with the principles of DB. I am telling you I am seeing a little bit of light. I can say my situation has gone from dead to the ICU. In most cases that is severe in my case I call it progress.
10. Told friends is over. My wife has done the same. It is over when you give up hope. Not before, only you know when it’s over.
11. Stopped wearing her wedding ring and anniversary band. Mine too. Hasn’t worn hers since December. She said they felt heavy to her. But she carries her band in her purse at least as of December anyways. Not really sure if she still does. They take off their rings for many reasons I wouldn’t be to concern with that even though I know it is a big blow.
12. Stopped calling me other than to use me as a furniture store. That’s ok also. Give her time and give her space. I bet she will call again when you least expect it. Just don’t sit by and wait for it, GAL and when she calls she calls.
FOBD This is the stage we are in right now friendly and only phone talk. I will post some more on your situation tomorrow cause it is 2:45AM
