Relationship Discussions - When is ok?

[habitacker]

Scared2def, Tonight I was your test dummy. Take sandi's advice word for word and do it. You don't have to memorize it, just get the point across.

I was scared as hell. But it worked. It is not a fix all, so keep expectations at bay, but, if you want to feel tension lift from both of your shoulders? Do it. Validate, shut up and listen and agree. If you have to talk, no pursuing.

I don't know what tomorrow will bring, but I could see her shoulders drop, it is the only thing after all this time I could of done just to get a chance to crack the wall.

Thank you Sandi, and anyone trying to get through to us about validating.

scare2def, she will still want D, she will still not try. she will still be done. This talk is not going to change that,which is why you have the talk, to let them know you understand that. It will only relieve tension and pressure on her, but that is a start.